Throughout your life, you'd be a part of multiple and various kinds of relationships. Which one is the most important one? The one with yourself.
Are you married? Dating? Are you a parent? Are you a sibling? Are you a professional - business or employed? Your actions, responsibilities may be varying in each capacity but there is a constant - you as an individual. What do I mean by that? You're the net total of your experiences, conclusions you draw from them, ethics, morals, thought processes, habits, songs you hum, movies you love, shows you re-watch, books you read and literally everything that's been a part of your life closely and has had an impact.
The relationship you have with yourself is the most important for many reasons and hence needs to be worked upon, continuously. Why? Let's ponder together...
- Hear the unsaid.
Think of the closest person to you - someone you could trust blindly, someone you'd think of if you were drowning, someone you could trust with all the wealth you'd ever make. Now think of all the things you haven't told them - worst fears, the anxiety attacks you didn't think you'd survive, heartbreaks, disappointments, embarrassing moments, missed opportunities, dark nightmares.
Why you couldn't tell them? No reason?
If you had something and couldn't tell it, so can the other person.
Watch it before you ask literally everything that crosses your mind. Sometimes, trust isn't enough and that's okay. - Not everyone has the same world view.
A problem can be solved in multiple ways is pretty common knowledge, what it implies, though, may be isn't - the difference in solution approaches is because not everyone is viewing the world with the same lens.
The exact same experience, happening at the exact same point in time in two individuals' lives may be interpreted and impact them very differently. You may have made some conditions same, but you still haven't replicated their entire lives prior to that point - so their temperament is shaped quite far apart.
When you learn to accept this, you may become a little more at ease with people who are viewing the same situation in a whole different light than you. - Righteousness
Knowing the right from the wrong is wisdom, choosing right over wrong is maturity (particularly because it's effortful and difficult making the right choices). What gets lost a tad bit with the whole right vs wrong debate is even if majority agrees on the righteousness of an action/choice, it'd need, however little, courage. For instance, most people would agree that taking a stand (for oneself or for another) is the right thing to do and yet it's so rare for people to do it that it comes across as a special trait in those who acted upon it. - The power of a clear conscience
No matter what age, everyone has had traumatic experiences that could (or did) scar them for life. It could be an exam you failed, an interview you didn't clear, rejections you faced - the list is endless. What do you tell yourself to try and move on from these? That you tried your best or that you did the right thing or that it wasn't meant to be or that everything happens for a reason? All of these converge to a single point - clearing your conscience to not leave space for regret, disappointment or guilt. Why? It gears you up to give it your all for what's coming next in life. And much practically put - to sleep easy.
I'm no expert but I'm pretty sure when you're 50 years old, a clear conscience and the happiness that comes with it is definitely worth being proud of. - Self Compassion
Kindness toward others is important as it makes the world a better place. You can't get started on that unless you're kind to yourself, making your heart and mind a better place to live in because you live with yourself more than anyone else ever will. When you learn to cut yourself some slack, start celebrating your wins on your own first, it becomes a lot easier to translate that out into the world and truly be happy for another.